Great analysis Lorraine, and it’s also true that, once you step back a bit, our relationship with our “emerging adults” keeps on getting better. “I believe in you” is key! And Meg Jay is genius 🩵
Sometimes I approach a conversation with my 22 and 27 year old daughters from the perspective that I adopt when professionally interviewing someone. As I writer, when talking to an architect, designer or artist, my focus is always completely on them and listening to what they say and most importantly, knowing when to keep quiet to give them the space to keep talking (the extra bits added on to the end of a statement are often the most illuminating)...
Thanks this is really helpful. As a parent with two late teen girls I’m definitely looking ahead a bit and wondering how to mentally prepare myself to parent them in their twenties. There seems to be so many resources available for parenting kids and teens and then it all seems to abruptly stop, so thanks for your insight.
Great analysis Lorraine, and it’s also true that, once you step back a bit, our relationship with our “emerging adults” keeps on getting better. “I believe in you” is key! And Meg Jay is genius 🩵
Sometimes I approach a conversation with my 22 and 27 year old daughters from the perspective that I adopt when professionally interviewing someone. As I writer, when talking to an architect, designer or artist, my focus is always completely on them and listening to what they say and most importantly, knowing when to keep quiet to give them the space to keep talking (the extra bits added on to the end of a statement are often the most illuminating)...
very good point. I also adopt WAIT: as in Why Am I Talking? x
Thanks this is really helpful. As a parent with two late teen girls I’m definitely looking ahead a bit and wondering how to mentally prepare myself to parent them in their twenties. There seems to be so many resources available for parenting kids and teens and then it all seems to abruptly stop, so thanks for your insight.
Exactly… there is no NCT do ‘shall we pay for them to come on hols with us and younger siblings now!’??
Would love to know your answer to this particular conundrum!